I won’t make any comments on the statements made by Mohan Bhagwat or Asaram Bapu. Not the least because they don’t make my blood
boil but simply because there is nothing I can say that hasn’t been said.
It is really sad to see their callous attitude and
shallow thinking but at their
age it is probably impossible
for them to change their regressive and repulsive
At best the can agree to ‘withdraw’ their
statements (read: to be
expressed again only in front of close and trusted people in the future). It doesn’t sound nice but it is probably be a good thing that in a decade’s time most of these ignorant and insensitive individuals (along with thousands of others like them who are
vary of voicing their opinions loudly due to the current sentiments) either won’t be around or shall be spending more time at the doctor’s than giving ‘expert’ comments.
The India of tomorrow definitely doesn’t need them. A pretty good riddance I must say! However India, which has over 55% of its population
under the age of 30, does need its youth to take it forward.
But what appalls (and worries) me is the attitude of the young educated males, even the ones staying in urban India, towards women, conventional wisdom would suggest that education (that
enables us to think rationally) and growing up in a urban environment (that provides us with more exposure) should make our thinking more global and progressive, especially in our treatment of women.
Call me naïve but I
spent the first 25 odd years of my life believing this.
However the last four years
have been an eye-opener in
this regards. Many may not like it, but the bitter truth is
that a large percentage of
guys from the best of schools and universities (both Indian and foreign) have attitude worse than 18 th century chauvinists. Most working women I know have come across at least half a dozen guys at their current or past workplaces who were clearly will at ease with a smart, equally (or more) educated woman. I am sick of meeting confused wannabes (read:
well-educated, having more
exposure than parents, hero in their family for their achievements) look for an equally smart and educated wife but with a caveat – ‘an extrovert trophy wife infront on my friends a docile bahu at home in front of my folks ’. Heights of hypocrisy!!
A few other manifestations of the disgusting views of many men on the opposite
gender are: a woman who rises the corporate ladder fast sleep her way up men are supposed to be the provider while women are
supposed to be the caretakers.
Hence a woman who wants to continue working after having kids isn’t a good mother a woman who drinks, smokes and/or wears skin revealing clothes is immoral and/or
looking for men a married woman has to act ‘mature’ i.e. she should move over ‘childish’ things like giggling uncontrollably with her girlfriends, playing pranks, cracking jokes etc. women active on Facebook
are desperate for men I am sure most of the readers
would know a few people
who harbor some of the
Like it or not, a sizeable
percentage of young ‘global’ Indians are yet to accept females as an equal in their heads and can’t come to terms with a poised woman’s substance – the modern day Indian woman.
They just don’t know how to deal with it. Bitching about them, labeling them a loose character or in extreme cases, confronting them aggressively are some of the ways they come up to hide their sense of insecurity. I guess upbringing has a lot of role to play in the formation
of such personalities.
Accustomed to seeing theirmollycoddling mothers as all-giving, submissive, docile creatures, many Indian men just aren’t emotionally equipped to accept and welcome the change in times. In conclusion, the Mohan Bhagwats, Abhijit Mukherjee
and Asaram Bapus of India
have lived their lives and after knowing their views on
women, I feel sorry for the female members in their
families. These guys aren’t the India of 21st century; it is the youth that has the onus to build a global and progressive society.
Unfortunately the way things are the moment,
most of them need to do
some serious introspection and alteration of hard-wired
though processes before
calling themselves as ‘modern’ or ‘global’.