|Proud to be an Indian.|
. . . Recently, I met a couple whose son wanted to be a doctor. But the parents, realizing that it takes many years to become a doctor and to settle down in life, talked the child out of his ambition. They forced him to takeup a course which would finish in a few years and where he could be employed and earning in a very short time. The child was adamant, but eventually had to give up his dreams and had to give in to parental pressure. The parents were very happy.
. . . They had enforced a ‘practical’ decision on the child. This set me thinking “What if every parent thought this way, and prevented his son or daughter from taking up the study of medicine? What would happen to the future of medicine and hence, to the future of the common man, ten, twenty or thirty years from now? Where would we find a good doctor when we fall sick?
. . . Many people would whole heartedly agree with the decision of the parents to push their child into a less competitive easy life. After all, one has to think practically and make one’s life easy. But what about the ambitions and the dreams of the child? These are dismissed as not being feasible or practical. They are effectively thrown into the dustbin, for dreams and ambitions often have no place in the real world. All practical decisions in life are taken with our cunning and planning mind. The heart is never practical, the heart is a romantic, and the heart is a dreamer. But with our minds, we override the heart, both ours and of those who are dependent on us, killing many a dream in the process.
. . . Was the child who gave up the study of medicine and took up some other career happy? If his ambition was strong and was a deep desire from the heart, he would be unhappy all his life. But ifit was a weak desire, a fad, then he would soon forget it and settle down in whatever he was doing. The same is true when we compromise, become practical in all other areas of our lives. Take Love, for instance. You are in love with someone, but your mind tells you that it would not work out, the person you love belongs to a different culture or socioeconomic status. You know that your parents would never agree to the relationship, for whatever reasons. You probably know that life would be a struggle if you married this person. So, you become practical and drop the girl or boy, and get married to someone whom your parents have chosen. You have acted very practically. But are you happy? If you were truly in love, you would be most miserable all your life. If your love was not true, if it was an infatuation or a passing fancy, you would soon forget it and get comfortable with your new life.
. . . Being practical comes from the left brain, that half of the brain which is logical, which thinks rationally, which has common sense, which is cunning and calculative, selfish, and which knows which side of the bread is buttered. Love, passion, creativity, romance, dreams, purpose of life, intuition –all these come from the right brain. By nature, women are more right than left brain, while men tend to use their left brain pre- dominantly.
. . . As a result, the things women pine and crave for are totally different than the things a man wants. While one needs to achieve a balance between both the sides, it has increasingly become a trend to rely totally on the faculties of the left brain, leaving behind many of the qualities of the right. While following the left brain and remaining practical might bring material gains and material comforts, true
happiness, joy, harmony and purpose in our lives comes only from following the messages which arise in the right brain.
. . . Make a conscious change today. Think from your heart (right brain) and follow its emotions. You might not become rich or powerful, but you will surely become happier and more passionate in life. The balance in our world is achieved by equal contributions from the right and left brain.
. . . Predominantly shifting to left brain consciousness and becoming more and more practical will only see the world pushed into more and more imbalance.
. . . Materialism will take a strong upper hand, and qualities like love compassion, empathy, altruism, warmth, passion and romance will slowly go down the scale, eventually tending to disappear from our lives and from the world.